The man-child

31 Jul

While I adore little children, I have to admit that I’m one of those people who would love to snuggle the baby, play with the little ones for an hour or two, and then send them home. They are exhausting and demanding and require a lot of skill-set that doesn’t come naturally to me, like eating on time and following a bed time schedule. I’ve always secretly wished that I could give birth to teenagers. Yea, teen agers are the way to go.

Then, over the years I’ve been doubting my teen parenting abilities as I’ve watched my fabulous friends struggle with their own teenagers. Over and over, it seems that teens throw their parents all sorts of surprises and angst and drama.

Brandon is now 14. He towers over me at 5’8″, his voice is deeper than his dad’s now, and he’s in the midst of puberty big time. I keep waiting for the drama and heart-ache and mood swings and obstinance. Maybe it’s yet to come, but as of yet my teenager is just a charming and fun person to be around.

When I found out I was pregnant with a boy I was thrilled and nervous. All I knew of boys (I had all sisters) was what I had heard from other moms: they’re loud, physical, destroy everything, have tempers as teenagers and eat you out of house and home. It’s all a big scare tactic. Brandon is a quiet soul. He has this sweet, amicable personality and is always willing to pitch in and help. He’s a great babysitter and gets the kids to bed better than I do. The friends he brings over are all great kids. He’s wicked smart, so smart that he plays lawyer with me and calmly dismantles all of my rules and regulations. So smart that he sees through the insanity that is public school and refuses to play the game of turning papers in on time and freaking out about projects and tests. If we have drama around these teen years, it’s all in the school work and trying to teach him that it’s important to play this game of “the system”.

What does a sweet, hard-working man-child dream of?   Turns out, he is a bit of a seeker. For Brandon, it’s all about the next laugh, technology and finances. He loves cartoons, comics, you-tube humor, and hilarious animation. He dreams of technology, software and creating things like videos, websites, animation.

I needed help with housekeeping this summer so my solution was to hire someone. I told Brandon that if he could learn to clean as well as a professional, that I would pay him to do it instead. Turns out, Brandon is fabulous with the bathrooms, the mopping and the kitchen cleaning. I’ve loved my clean house, and he’s had something to do when I’m at The Dog. He doesn’t complain, he works hard, and my house is looking pretty good! The best thing? He has been able to work toward a goal:


Nope, it’s not about girls yet – but look at his sexy I-mac G5 that he found for an incredible deal on Craigs List. I think Brandon had as much fun shopping for it as he’s had using it. I’m telling you – it’s great to see a kid follow their passion, work toward a goal and achieve it. And, with all of the hilarious media around him, it’s great to hear him laugh.

So no, don’t believe the hype. Teens are the best – if you don’t have one in your life you really should run out and pick one up for yourself.  Lord knows, it will feel like tomorrow when he’s packing his bags for college. (god wiling) Until then, I’m trying to soak my first born up like a sponge and enjoy every moment.

2 Responses to “The man-child”

  1. Michael July 31, 2009 at 11:22 am #

    You want drama? Wait for your daughter to turn 14. Boys are much easier than girls.

    I can tell Brandon is a smart kid — HE USES A MAC!!!

  2. Kai August 3, 2009 at 1:14 am #

    I agree – teens are marvelous! My favourite classes are the ones I teach with teen yogis. Your son sounds like a wonderful young man – you have good reason to be proud! 🙂

    When I was a teen, my mother made the same deal with me – clean the house and she would pay me what she would have given a professional housekeeper. It’s turned out to be a great gift. I’ve come to realise that not all adults have the skills to keep a house neat and clean; many find ‘housekeeping’ difficult. Her early training has made my life so much easier.

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